Tuesday, July 6, 2021

Fort Collins Mental Health Counselor and Life Coach: Narcissism Part Three

Today's Blog Post

Don't miss Narcissism Part One and Part Two

Frequently, I am asked -- are my parents narcissists?  

They might be if: 

  • They consistently redirect the conversation back to themselves.
  • They compete with their children (e.g., mom flirts with daughter's boyfriend).
  • They make you feel like you are a burden (e.g., they say, life would be easy if you were not born).
  • They fail to protect you from harmful people.
  • They are emotionally unavailable (i.e., little or no empathy).
  • They control and manipulate (e.g., shame, guilt trips, blame, etc).
  • They attempt to create the perfect child (i.e., the bar is set high).
  • They offer conditional love (i.e., love and acceptance is based on performance).
  • They violate boundaries (i.e., you have no personal privacy, and they will humiliate you in public by sharing private personal information).
  • Their children are an extension of themselves (i.e., your ability to develop your identity is constantly challenged, dismissed, and possibly crushed). 
  • They are perceived by others as great parents (i.e., their public image, not your wellbeing, is most important).
  • They are not flexible, and do not negotiate (i.e., it's their way always). 
  • They blame one another, you, or others for their poor parenting skills. 

Thank you for reading, and please feel free to contact me for a free 50 minute counseling or coaching consultation (either in person or video).

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