Today's Blog Post
Frequently, I am asked -- are my parents narcissists?
They might be if:
- They consistently redirect the conversation back to themselves.
- They compete with their children (e.g., mom flirts with daughter's boyfriend).
- They make you feel like you are a burden (e.g., they say, life would be easy if you were not born).
- They fail to protect you from harmful people.
- They are emotionally unavailable (i.e., little or no empathy).
- They control and manipulate (e.g., shame, guilt trips, blame, etc).
- They attempt to create the perfect child (i.e., the bar is set high).
- They offer conditional love (i.e., love and acceptance is based on performance).
- They violate boundaries (i.e., you have no personal privacy, and they will humiliate you in public by sharing private personal information).
- Their children are an extension of themselves (i.e., your ability to develop your identity is constantly challenged, dismissed, and possibly crushed).
- They are perceived by others as great parents (i.e., their public image, not your wellbeing, is most important).
- They are not flexible, and do not negotiate (i.e., it's their way always).
- They blame one another, you, or others for their poor parenting skills.
Thank you for reading, and please feel free to contact me for a free 50 minute counseling or coaching consultation (either in person or video).